The failure to maintain a marriage

Failure
Failure is an event that does not accomplish its intended purpose or lack of success. A person can fail in achieving something in his or her life. For instance, he or she fails to pass examination, fails to get a job, and fails in a marriage, such as Sam’s marriage problem. When a person afraid to do something or to face a complicated problem. So, that person is mentioned fail. He cannot handle a problem. He has not strength to strive. Moreover, Alex’s fundamental need has been forgotten by Sam Parker. In this case, Sam cannot achieve harmonious in his family, because of less pay attention to his wife.

Atkinson’s Theory of Achievement Motivation in Franken (1982:246) states:

One of Atkinson’s important and fundamental contribution was his suggestion that the need to achieve in humans is always tempered by another fundamental need, the need to avoid failure. That is, one cannot set out to achieve a goal without consequences of failure. Atkinson’s theory recognizes that people may differ in a strength of these two motives, but in the final analysis, the goal directed behavior is determined by the join action of the two motives.

By reading that statement, it can be concluded that if the motive to succeed is greater than the motive to avoid failure, the person will strive to attain a particular goal. It is assumed that person will select goals that minimize the chance of failure.

Mean while the act that leads of failure is clarified by Franken. He clarifies that failure lead to incomplete turning outward of the self-directed destructiveness and constructiveness with which the situation is. No one emerges completely free of self-destructive tendencies. Often there is an overlap between an constructiveness and destructiveness. Some people destroy themselves for what might to considered to be logical reasons such as killing themselves to avoid along painful death. Other seem to die by purposeless act such as addition to alcohol etc.

In this situation, the person who is called Sam deals with his failure by doing Affair, and he seldom gives pay attention to his wife when his wife getting trouble of sickness.

The relationship in a family can be reviewed in psychological approach

The relationship in a family can be reviewed in psychological approach

A person feels gratitude when he attributes his success to the action of others but anger when he is seen as contributing to his failure. When someone is lack of ability to give support to his marriage partner’s problem, so that person feels depressed. Success or failure depends on a person’s effort, and how he can handle the problems.

A person uses his natural speech, indexing the individual as pessimistic then the past event can influence his psychological stress reactions. A person to achieve a success, it is depend on the individual’s efforts whether he has a motivation to achieve a success or not. In the novel Lightning, Sam cannot make negative and disposition attribution for his failure. He let his motivation be undermined by momentary setbacks. This is important to know about psychology of a person, particularly by knowing the pessimistic of person to cope the marriage problem. His attitude shows that he can not cope his wife’s problem because he is bitterly afraid with the past experience. So, his pessimism influences his attitude and make his stress increase when he look his wife sickness, he is only think that his pretty wife will die tragically.

Psychology and conflict literary are connected to review someone conflict. Those theories are the primary reason that can cause marriage failure. Psychology is the theory how to know about the character’s personality, especially the weakness of his character that influences his act, what he is going to do. While his perception is negative, his stress is uncontrollable. Then, to achieve a good relationship he has not motivation. It is the reasons why he always conflicts with his wife. Above explanation completely Sam’s reasons that he fail to maintain his marriage.