Conflicts in a Family

dConflict in family cohesion


Relationship in a family sometimes can be bothered. It is caused by several factors (see previous page). One of them is a conflict. Conflicts are present in most marriage. It may be the result of neurotic or egocentric tendencies in one or both marriage partners. Sometimes, it could be caused by romantic attitudes which predispose individual to expect the impossible or may be the result of diverse value structure. Marriage always imposes the obligation of compromising on some wishes, habits, and values which has been held sacred by one of the partners. The facts in a marriage, they came from different families, different segment of heterogeneous culture. The differentiations some times emerges a conflict in adjusting their life patterns.

James explains that conflict may be viewed in two ways:
In negative sense, conflict may be dreaded as a threat to marital stability. The continuous conflicts and disruptive may sacrifice anything for harmony. A wife objected bitterly to the thought that there might be any positive outcome as the result of conflict because a wife had been victimized.
Conflict is to regard to character depth. It means to the promotion of final family cohesion. A person with a strong conviction and well-oriented values will easily adjust to any situation. This type of resolution of conflict is a form of withdrawal which eventually weakens the structure of family unity and certainly weakens the interests and values of those in the family. Many minor conflicts are solved in this way.
The above views of the conflict in family cohesion can be concluded that many marriage partners have different way facing a problem. The way how to face a problem depends on the character and background of each person.