The relationship in a family can be reviewed in psychological approach

The relationship in a family can be reviewed in psychological approach

A person feels gratitude when he attributes his success to the action of others but anger when he is seen as contributing to his failure. When someone is lack of ability to give support to his marriage partner’s problem, so that person feels depressed. Success or failure depends on a person’s effort, and how he can handle the problems.

A person uses his natural speech, indexing the individual as pessimistic then the past event can influence his psychological stress reactions. A person to achieve a success, it is depend on the individual’s efforts whether he has a motivation to achieve a success or not. In the novel Lightning, Sam cannot make negative and disposition attribution for his failure. He let his motivation be undermined by momentary setbacks. This is important to know about psychology of a person, particularly by knowing the pessimistic of person to cope the marriage problem. His attitude shows that he can not cope his wife’s problem because he is bitterly afraid with the past experience. So, his pessimism influences his attitude and make his stress increase when he look his wife sickness, he is only think that his pretty wife will die tragically.

Psychology and conflict literary are connected to review someone conflict. Those theories are the primary reason that can cause marriage failure. Psychology is the theory how to know about the character’s personality, especially the weakness of his character that influences his act, what he is going to do. While his perception is negative, his stress is uncontrollable. Then, to achieve a good relationship he has not motivation. It is the reasons why he always conflicts with his wife. Above explanation completely Sam’s reasons that he fail to maintain his marriage.

Conflicts in a Family

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Relationship in a family sometimes can be bothered. It is caused by several factors (see previous page). One of them is a conflict. Conflicts are present in most marriage. It may be the result of neurotic or egocentric tendencies in one or both marriage partners. Sometimes, it could be caused by romantic attitudes which predispose individual to expect the impossible or may be the result of diverse value structure. Marriage always imposes the obligation of compromising on some wishes, habits, and values which has been held sacred by one of the partners. The facts in a marriage, they came from different families, different segment of heterogeneous culture. The differentiations some times emerges a conflict in adjusting their life patterns.

James explains that conflict may be viewed in two ways:
In negative sense, conflict may be dreaded as a threat to marital stability. The continuous conflicts and disruptive may sacrifice anything for harmony. A wife objected bitterly to the thought that there might be any positive outcome as the result of conflict because a wife had been victimized.
Conflict is to regard to character depth. It means to the promotion of final family cohesion. A person with a strong conviction and well-oriented values will easily adjust to any situation. This type of resolution of conflict is a form of withdrawal which eventually weakens the structure of family unity and certainly weakens the interests and values of those in the family. Many minor conflicts are solved in this way.
The above views of the conflict in family cohesion can be concluded that many marriage partners have different way facing a problem. The way how to face a problem depends on the character and background of each person.